When I was 27 years old, my dad died from lung cancer – he was only 60 years old. For weeks, our house was filled with an endless stream of friends and family offering their condolences. My siblings and I were in a state of shock, stunned by grief and sadness, and we had no mental or physical energy left to cook dinner or go to the grocery store. The sympathy gifts we received from loved ones, especially in the form of food or drink, provided a palpable form of love and comfort that we desperately needed.
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While sending a basket of food may seem trivial, sympathy gifts serve as an act of kindness, offering solace in ways that words sometimes are unable to. Whether it’s a salty or sweet snack, basket of fresh fruit, bottle of wine, or bouquet of flowers, a sympathy gift helps make any tough time a little easier to manage.
Here's my list of sympathy gift ideas to help you show your loved ones they're in your thoughts.
Prepared Meals
Prepared Meals
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Family-Style Italian Meal from Harry & David
Bacon and Cheese Stuffed Chicken Breast from Harry & David
Among the many ways to show your condolences, the gift of food is arguably the most appreciated. Food is a symbol of love, and the comfort of a home-cooked meal can bring relief to anyone going through a hard time. A prepared meal usually arrives ready to heat and serve, providing a sense of security and normality in times of sadness. It also relieves the person of the stress of shopping for and cooking food.
Consider sending comfort food favorites, such as Chicken Pot Pies, which can offer a sense of familiarity and nostalgia during a time of grief. Just like you, it will be there when they need it most.
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Family-Style Italian Meal from Harry & David
Bacon and Cheese Stuffed Chicken Breast from Harry & David
Wine
Wine
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Sympathy White Wine Gift Box from Harry & David
Classic Sympathy Gift Boxes with Wine from Harry & David
Wine may not be the first thing you think of when it comes to a sympathy gift, but a glass of wine during a hard time can offer a momentary escape from grief. A carefully selected bottle of wine speaks volumes and shows you've put your heart into finding the perfect pour for your loved ones.
It’s important to tailor your wine choice to match the mood of the event. Therefore, a red wine or white wine would be a better choice than a sparkling wine, unless the bereaved are hosting a celebration of life ceremony or the deceased had an affinity for a specific varietal.
With the gift of wine, you are giving your friend or loved one an opportunity to sit down and finally have a moment to reflect and raise a glass in honor of the departed.
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Sympathy White Wine Gift Box from Harry & David
Classic Sympathy Gift Boxes with Wine from Harry & David
Baked goods
Baked goods
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Sympathy Cookie Basket from Harry & David
Have you noticed that taking a bite of your favorite sweet makes you feel happier? It’s not all in your head. Sweets release “feel good” hormones that can instantly boost your mood.
The beauty of dessert is that it is not pretending to be healthy; it is not trying to be anything other than what it is: a sweet thing to enjoy. Receiving baked goods, such as the Sympathy Bakery Tray, from a loved one can make you feel cared for. Baked goods are also easy to share among large groups because they’re portioned out, requiring minimal effort to enjoy.
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Sympathy Cookie Basket from Harry & David
Flowers
Flowers
Shop : Classic All White Arrangement™ for Sympathy from 1-800-Flowers.com
White Lily Bouquet for Sympathy from 1-800-Flowers.com
Loving Memory White Calla Lily from 1-800-Flowers.com
Giving flowers serves as a reminder that someone is thinking of you, creating a soothing gesture of love and support during a difficult time. Flowers signal to your loved ones that they do not have to go through this hardship alone.
Flowers such as lilies, roses, carnations, orchids, gladioli, and chrysanthemums are traditionally used for sympathy. However, you don't have to stick to just those types. If you know the recipient has a preference for a particular kind of flower, give them a bouquet of those instead. The most common color for sympathy flowers is white due to its association with righteousness and purity.
Representative of the fleeting nature of life, sympathy flowers can help you illustrate your love and respect to grieving friends and family.
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White Lily Bouquet for Sympathy from 1-800-Flowers.com
Loving Memory White Calla Lily from 1-800-Flowers.com
Fruit
Fruit
Shop : "Here for You" Fruit and Sweets Gift Basket from Harry & David
Wishing You Peace Sympathy Fruit Basket from 1-800-Baskets.com
In Loving Memory Fresh Fruit Sympathy Basket from 1-800-Baskets.com
During a time of grief, family members are likely to be worn down by stress and lack of sleep, and tend to eat a lot of rich foods they normally wouldn’t eat. However, if there is a basket of fruit at home, they may be more inclined to pick something out of it when they pass by, which helps them stay healthy — and even hydrated — without even thinking about it. If the grieving family has children, they, too, may be eating nothing but junk food, so parents will appreciate having fruit sent for the children.
Taking care of the family and friends left behind by making sure they have something healthy to eat during a challenging time is a beautiful way to show them you’re looking out for their well-being.
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Wishing You Peace Sympathy Fruit Basket from 1-800-Baskets.com
In Loving Memory Fresh Fruit Sympathy Basket from 1-800-Baskets.com
Food baskets
Food baskets
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Sympathy Snack Gift Box from Harry & David
Deluxe "Thinking of You" Gift Basket from Harry & David
When you’re grieving, thinking about eating can be difficult. Grief sends you into a whirlwind of emotions and can make it hard to set aside time to sit down for a meal. So, if you have a family member or loved one who is grieving, a gift basket filled with their favorite snacks is a perfect way to show your support. Not only that, it can help with the responsibility of feeding mourners and their guests in their time of grief.
From meat and cheese assortments to breakfast pastry trays, and build-a-sandwich kits to seafood platters, a gift of food and drink often is the best comfort and a great way to let someone know you're thinking about them from afar.
Shop : Classic Sympathy Gift Box from Harry & David
Sympathy Snack Gift Box from Harry & David
Deluxe "Thinking of You" Gift Basket from Harry & David